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The Bullies and the Bullied

SCIP Emphasizes Seriousness of Bullying & What Needs to be Done to Stop It

by School Community Intervention Program (SCIP) December 2010 Newsletter

Modern technology has expanded the problem of bullying from within the school walls to public humiliation via Facebook, twitter, texting, etc., leaving behind a path of human destruction. 

Bullying is an epidemic right now; children retaliating... hurting...dying. Understanding the viewpoints from both the bullied and the bullies may be key in addressing the issue. There are extremes when the bullying becomes criminal or is due to a child’s mental or social disorder. Those situations need to be dealt with in their own way; however, the following is based on everyday, common, hurtful bullying. The content of this article comes from the blog of a man who shares what it was like to be bullied as a child, as well as feedback from those that bullied.

From the Bullied: It took only seven weeks of daily bullying (at school) to make me feel worthless and full of self-hate. Because I didn’t share the worst of it with her, my mother would reassure me things would get better. The bullying extended to the school bus; the bus driver never helped. Not one person defended me; teachers heard the worst of it and never offered assistance. Never once did a single kind soul put their arm around me and show me love. Never once did a teacher comfort me when they witnessed it. Never once did a classmate speak up when they heard it. Never once did anybody do anything. I was easily angered. I was mean to my siblings. I wanted to be left alone. I fantasized and prayed nightly for anything, anyone to come and kill the bullies. Nobody knew that I wanted to die; that I had horrible and constant fantasies of death aimed at others; that I hated every teacher that never did anything; that I hated every classmate who refused to say a kind word to me for fear of becoming targets themselves.

From the Bullies: 
• I was a bully my entire public school career. I was bullied at home; emotionally, physically, and spiritually abused (raised in a cult). I was made fun of everyday at school by other kids. The only way to gain acceptance was to bully others who were even less cool than me. I lashed out at the kids at school because it was easy to spread the misery. Somehow by bringing others down a notch, I felt like I was brought up one. I can only imagine if someone had tried to figure out what my problem was. If someone took a good look at me and realized how desperately I needed help; how desperately I needed to get away from my toxic family. Do you think kids come up with their hateful beliefs on their own? It’s learned. I wish someone had taken the time to help me.
• I am a bully. I thought what I do was so funny, and now I can see the pain I am causing to others. I wish more than anything for somebody at school to really like me too. I have a mom and dad who aren’t mean or anything, but at school nobody cares and nobody will ever even talk to me. I think I am a bully because it makes me feel like then there’s a reason nobody cares or even knows I exist.

About the Bullies: You may need to look deeper. They may be the victim of something going on around them. Desperate and hurting individuals. Their bullying may be a symptom of bullying that they are receiving in their own lives, whether it’s from their own family, or other bullies. The more they hate themselves, the more they want others to suffer. Don’t hate the bullies. Hating them, or being angry with them, will always make it worse. Instead, tell them they are valuable; that you expect great things from them. Telling a bully that he has no feelings and is nothing but a mean, angry person will never stop his bullying; believing in him will. There is not a person on earth who would rather receive harsh words and pointed attacks instead of statements of true concern and affirmation. People who love themselves don't bully others. If they actually believe that somebody loves them and believes in them, they will love themselves, become better people, and many will even become saviors to the bullied. They need love and respect in order to learn how to love and respect others. Bullies grow up to be adult bullies... if we don't love them now and help them to stop, they turn into abusive spouses and parents. Not always physically, but always mentally, and it's much harder to stop an adult from bullying than a child.

About the Bullied: So many kids would still be alive right now, if somebody, anybody, would have done something. Any child who takes his own life does so under the assumption that nobody actually values having them around; they have been brutally pushed to the edge. Some bullied children receive it in small doses, some in life-ending amounts. Sometimes it's as "minor" as making fun of clothes or name-calling. Sometimes it's extreme physical or sexual abuse. No matter what kind of bullying is going on, it hurts, and it has lasting effects on our children. Part of the answer is a teacher doing more than simply telling the bullies to stop. It’s a warm hand on her pupil's shoulder, a listening ear, warm words of importance, and then finding a reason for the child to come back the next day, and the next, until that child knows that his presence is cherished. Schools can dedicate time to the topic of bullying; what each child can do when they are the ones being bullied, what to do if they see people being bullied, or what they can change if they realize that they themselves are guilty of bullying others. Parents, comfort and talk to your kids, spend time with them...until they tell you the truth. Everyone needs to understand what bullied kids go through, what thoughts bullied kids think. Because it's those thoughts that lead some kids to drastic ends. If you haven't noticed, it's not generally the bullies that are killing themselves, slaughtering their schoolmates, or building bombs in their bedrooms. It's the bullied that are doing that. Many kids may want to speak up for the bullied, but are afraid of becoming targets as well. It takes courage to befriend the bullied, and to let the bully know you disapprove.

To get the complete story and its powerful impact, we encourage you to visit the following two links to read it in its entirety. It is a MUST read for teachers, parents, and youth: http://www.danoah.com/2010/10/memoirs-of-bullied-kid.html and
http://www.danoah.com/2010/10/bullies-their-not-even-human.html

The Bullies and the Bullied

Jill Colganjcolgan@esu2.orgWPSSpeech Tech

Nov 24, 2010

Awesome article! I tell my kids all the time that these people who are bullying others, need our compassion, not our contempt. I hope this helps people to understand this problem better. Yes, bullying has existed as long as man has, but it's not normal. As educator who work with children, I fell it is our responsibility to not only intervene when we witness bullying, but to also follow-up with both the one bullying and the one being bullied. Thanks for posting this article. Let's all work together to reduce bullying in our schools!!

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